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Conscious Conversations

In December 2023, I started noticing a change in energy around me. After three weeks of silence, I realized that part of the change is a better understanding of how, when, and why people communicate.

My preference is to remain in the present moment. When I repeat stories, it keeps me in the past. It is exhausting to keep recounting the same stories.

Another problem with repeating your stories is that it keeps the story's energy and what happened alive. You may want to keep it alive if it is a beautiful memory. What about negative memories — do you want to keep reliving them?

If you can fully let go, release, and heal from your negative experiences, there will not be an urge or need to continue to talk about them. Be aware of the difference between telling your story so you can release and heal from it versus repeating it to justify your thoughts, feelings, and actions about it.

Listening to a negative story affects you energetically. Recently, I was at the beach reading. A man approached the couple near me and started telling a long, detailed story about all the trials and tribulations he had been having with his adult son. Unintentionally, I could hear everything despite not attempting to listen. Rather than move, I realized this would be an excellent opportunity to check my energy as he continued his sad tale. I could perceive and experience the dark energy swirling around. The heaviness of his words permeated everything. He did not seem to be seeking help. I had sympathy for his friends, who were listening and nodding their heads. What was the point of his story beyond dumping on his friends? It changed nothing with his son; he didn't walk away with new ideas on how to deal with him. Following his conversation, I experienced a profound sense of exhaustion.

I understand that sometimes, we experience a need to vent. It is best to ask the person if it is okay to share something bothering you. Make it clear what you want and need. Are you hoping for advice?

Is it simply a desire to be seen, heard, and understood? Can they share a similar experience that might give you an idea about how to handle things in the future?

If you are not up to having a conversation, be clear and compassionate. "I'm sorry. I cannot help you with that issue right now." You can suggest another time to talk. Or, if it is not a discussion you want to have later, permit yourself to say "No."

Understanding that you can say "no" allows you to step back and evaluate how and with whom you share your energy. It could be a temporary 'no' — "I don't want to talk about that right now." Or, maybe you never want to have a particular conversation — "I'm sorry, I am not available to discuss that with you."

It is up to us to determine which conversations and people fill you up rather than drain you. My recent experience of being silent has helped me listen more closely to the wisdom of my Spirit Guides. I am very grateful to be reminded that we all have a choice to participate in conversations with others. I will be saying 'no' more often in my personal life.

What are your thoughts about managing draining people and situations?

Peace & Blessings,


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26. Jan.

I also wanted to add that if I know an email or text I receive might have something unsettling, unless there is a deadline for me to respond, I wait until I am not hungry, tired, or busy, to read it. I chose to read it when I know I will have time to process it. BLESSINGS, CHLOE

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24. Jan.

This is a very important lesson to remember, not only about conversations we are having with others but self talk. Language is a very powerful tool for self improvement and engagement. Silence is another excellent tool often underused. Remind yourself how you want your energy to be, and to transform. Choose wisely. You always, always have a choice.

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I have experienced ”Draining” of energy from a friend of mine. It’s difficult when they take and take and do not make any effort to heal themselves of their pain. This I find disturbing. As the saying goes, “ don’t complain about anything you allow”. This is my “No, I can‘t talk right now”.

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24. Jan.

Totally agree!!

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Divine Companions: Spirit Guides

Are you aware that Divine companions surround you all the time? They are there, doing their best to guide and keep you safe. Before you were born this lifetime, Spirit chose them to accompany you through your lifetime, from the moment of your first breath, until your last.

What is a Spirit Guide?

These highly evolved beings have completed the cycle of birth and death in the physical plane and are now serving as teachers and guides to elevate their vibrations further. They are as “real” as you are, but they vibrate at another level and live in another plane of existence.

Usually, Spirt Guides reach you through your dreams and intuition. That quiet voice you hear is often the voice of your teachers and guides. They may also make themselves known through repetitive signs and symbols; they use these to get your attention, so you can discover what they are trying to tell you.

When my Spirit Guides have difficulty getting my attention, they often resort to causing me some physical challenges. The physical problems disappear as soon as I recognize my Guides are trying to reach me, and I understand the message and lessons they are bringing me.

You can have more than one Spirit Guide. I have several, and new ones continue to show up. I trust their process; they are always bringing me guidance and lessons to assist me on my spiritual path.

Some people have archangels and angels as spirit guides. Remember, having an angel appear does not always mean they are your Spirit Guides. Angels can be called in times of distress to assist you for a short time.

Identifying your Spirit Guide

They are always with you, whether you acknowledge their presence. If you want to understand who your guides are, just ask. Start by getting in a quiet meditative space and ask that they reveal themselves to you. Beings from the spiritual realm often communicate through signs and symbols.


Once you ask, you must trust your wisdom. Pay attention to the pictures that appear in your mind. You might see a Native American, a Buddhist monk, or nothing at all. Keep your mind and intuition open. Also, notice if signs, symbols, or messages continue to come up after you ask them to reveal themselves.


Working with your Spirit Guides is a fantastic personal and spiritual growth tool. They dwell in a higher vibrational plane and bring lessons and guidance from other dimensions. You can also ask your Spirit Guides to assist you in physical healing. Before you go to sleep, ask that they do healing work on you.

Life is so much more than what we see. Open your spiritual eyes and hearts, and you will discover a world of wisdom, beauty, and peace you never knew existed. Raise your vibration and allow the beautiful gifts of Spirit to wash over you.

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