- Chloe Kemp

- Feb 12
- 3 min read

Valentine’s Day is approaching — who is tired of all the commercialization of holidays? I know I am!
When I lived in Asheville, I started celebrating a “Galentine's Day” with my single girlfriends because I didn’t like the idea that Valentine's Day was only for couples. Everyone deserves to feel special and loved. The idea and focus that Love is supposed to be romantic is so outdated.
I admit, for many years when I was single, I avoided going out on Valentine’s Day. The year 2019 changed everything for me. On Valentine’s Day that year, I took my dog to the vet and received a devastating diagnosis. I was distraught and called a friend. She agreed to meet me at a cafe near our houses before she started her Valentine's Day celebration with her husband. Yes, the cafe was packed with happy couples celebrating, as I sat crying and talking to my friend. I did not care at all that it was primarily a couples event. I was in the present moment with my grief, and that is all I was focusing on.
The person to always celebrate with is yourself. That’s right — you are your Sweetheart, your Lover, your Best Friend, your Confidante. Do not wait around for someone else to celebrate you.
What makes you feel Loved? Appreciated? Understood? Seen? Heard? Find a way to give those to yourself.
And for all the couples… yes, you can love your partner and yourself. Remember, your first love affair is with yourself.
I have been on a big self-love, self-care mission recently. I am astounded by the results I have received so far.
On the winter Solstice 2025, I began a deep inner-work journey to better understand my year and identify everything that still needed to be released. So much had been shed in my life up to Solstice, so I wanted to make sure I was not bringing anything unhealthy into 2026.
I have diligently worked on this release project every day, gaining significant clarity. The work is very deep. Some of the results are so profound, I am in a state of awe. With no real effort, things that have affected me negatively my entire life no longer have a hold on me. I am in a state of perpetual neutrality. There is no more emotional charge. I no longer have a need to feel angry, sad, or hurt. I no longer need to make someone who has hurt or disappointed me “wrong” or a “bad” person.
I am not ignoring or denying anything. I just don’t get upset. I might calmly acknowledge my feelings, but it comes from a place of neutrality, not judgment. My new motto is “Observe without Absorbing.” Now, when someone’s behavior is unhealthy, in my mind, I thank them for showing me their true colors. And, I observe if that is the kind of behavior I want to be around. If I choose to let go of the relationship, I no longer feel guilty.
These are not new concepts. What is different is that they moved from being concepts to being an automatic part of my life. It is one thing to understand intellectually. Once it settles in your heart, you are embodying it emotionally. It becomes your new reality, bringing a sense of calm, serenity, peace, and tranquility.
The changes I am already observing in myself are astounding. I am in the middle of miraculous healing and am definitely not the same person I was at Solstice. This project will end on February 17, when the Year of the Fire Horse begins. The work does not have to be done during certain dates. For me, I knew intuitively to begin on the Solstice and end on February 17. Any two-month period where you can commit to doing the work is fine.
I am creating an online class so that you can have this amazing opportunity to make major changes in your life. Not sure when it will be ready (one of the things I am committing to in 2026 is to give myself more time to relax and not work too much).
Future plans still include a monthly membership with online workshops, chats, and live sessions. I continue to offer intuitive shamanic energy healing, mediumship, and life coaching. Please let me know how I can assist you with becoming your best self.
Many thanks to John Hain @ Pixabay for the lovely image.
Peace & Blessings to all.
Love,
Chloe


